Often times life can seem like this.
Because X and Y, therefore Z.
But it’s never like that. It’s actually more like this.
Because X and Y, therefore Z, A, B, C, D, etc are possible. Given the priorities set by my values and beliefs (whether they be scientifically evidenced or derived or a mere judgment call), I choose Z because it seems more desirable than the other alternatives, at least at this point in time.
Both ways lead you to Z. So what’s the difference?
Sometimes for time’s sake, maybe your brain skips the part where you make a conscious decision and assume that the decision has already been made and you’re just carrying out some sort of order.
When you do something, it’s not because you have to. It’s because you choose to.
You don’t have to do your homework. You choose to do your homework so you can get a better grade than if you didn’t.
You don’t have to go see the doctor. You choose to see the doctor so you can feel better than you do now.
You don’t have to come out and spend time with your friends. You choose to spend time with them because you value your friendship.
You don’t have to give up your seat on the bus. You choose to do so because you care about the well-being of this elderly lady whom you’ve never met before.
You don’t have to be good at any of this stuff you’re doing. You’re choosing to be better at it because you want to.
Sometimes we take the optimal outcome or “supposed to be” and happenstances for granted, and forget that our agency is what will make that, and has made this possible, rather than a predetermined path set out by our circumstances.
Even if the circumstances have been nourishing and favourable, there were still many options you could’ve chosen, and you chose this one. You chose it because it seemed to be the most desirable option at the time. And no matter how it seems at this point, there are still (potentially) desirable aspects that remain, even if some of which may not be so visible yet.
So make the most out of this one. Maybe it’s something completely different from what you’re used to. Maybe it’s essentially the same thing you’ve been doing just at a difference place. But don’t forget that in either case, this is what you’ve consciously chosen for yourself.